I personally think that an adult man knows that to walk up behind a female and place his lips and breath against the neck of a woman is risque.I can't understand the debate.I know I've been abused ...but come on now.My sons....I don't kiss their mouth....or...neck...these are intimate areas.I would have freaked.Would he kiss a strangers neck?...if not...why wouldn't he?...I kiss my boys (all adults)firmly on top of the head lol....or on forehead.I'll tell you...in my life time...I'm 42...I have never heard of a non flirtatious walk up behind and kiss on the neck type kiss.It makes no sense.((((Violets)))) you aren't paranoid