one of the best things my T ever did for me was just be accepting. it felt like i had never hat that before, and i learned to mimic it, until i could actually do it for myself. this is how children learn. so, find someone, anyone, who accepts you and just practice being like them, when they are away. accept yourself, then you can start to be kind to yourself, then maybe even like yourself, or better yet, grow to love yourself, and voila'~! you are an accomplished grown up~! Gus