i have tryed that wisewoman, i have a friend who is going threw the exact same thing with his son, his son was living with him until 2 weeks ago when he gave his son the choice of living with him or with his mom full time, he is also 7, he wants his son to live with him obviously, but he like me cannot talk to our exwifes in a cival manner, she like my ex constantly put us down in front of our sons, why should i be the bad guy? if his mom had kept her knickers on we would not be in this situation, he gave his son the option to live with his mom whilst the made his own mind up, that is a option i dont have.