How long have you "known" him? I met my husband online, but we talked (JUST talked) online and on the phone for over 8 months before we ever met. Even then it was just for a weekend and then back to our separate corners so to speak.

Don't let anyone rush you into something you aren't ready for, ever. If he truly is what he says he is, he won't mind if you need extra time to be more comfortable.

Part of me wonders if his sense of urgency is age related. Sometimes people who are older feel this urgency to be with someone because they "don't have much time left" (of course, that happens with young people too).

I say trust your instincts and follow them. Mine seem to be right, especially when I disregard them.