Thanks Notz for your support. He was raised in a completely different way than I was. He was taught, kids should listen to their parents no matter what and his parents often physically abused their kids.

I like my girls to listen to me and they usually do, with gentle reassurance. I've also taught them, if they absolutely aren't comfortable with a situation, they should trust their feelings. Like I said before, I'm all for confronting fears but it has to be done in a supportive way and you need to look for clues the person is ready, to face their fears. If it's done wrong it could worsen the fear IMO.