Hi, Butterflyangel!

Just My Opinion: It's not your imagination; your husband is sending you mixed signals. It is genuinely confusing.

Speculation: It is relatively more likely that the source of the mixed signals is your husband's inner turmoil and personal confusion -- whatever their source. It is relatively less likely your husband is deliberately trying to confuse you.

Cautionary Note: The above comments are those of someone (me) who freely admits severe lack of confidence in discussing relationship issues.