oh mellors......my heart goes out to you....i too read and reread your post trying to find the right words.....all the advice you have been given here is right on the mark and you must take it all to heart......your son is way too young to hear the truth......but your positive actions are making more of an impact on him then you give yourself credit for......he knows that his daddy loves him.....just keep doing all you can and i promise you that one day he will come to you and say.."dad, i understood why things had to be the way they did but i never doubted your love......"....you're a good man mellors.....