(((((((Mellors)))))))))

I am a single Mom of 2 sons (both have different Dads). My oldest (9yrs) and his Dad now have a wonderful relationship as I made a choice to not bad mouth him to my son....no matter how hard it was to bite my tongue. I was abused by his Dad which made it even harder to not say anything.

I have not regretted this decision as my son's Dad is still in therapy to deal with his problems and has turned into a great Dad to our son. This has made such a difference with him....his spirit is thriving as he has 2 parents who love him.

I can remember my Mom telling me that when you speak badly about a parent to a child, you break their spirit and it changes them forever.

I now have a 4 year old and his Dad is not bothering with him We have been through **ll with him but to this day I will not speak badly about him to our son. I completely understand how you feel. My ex cheated, abused us mentally, gambled away all of our savings....etc etc amd it takes everything in my power to not say a word but I made a choice that I won't and encourage a relationship between them even though it isn't happening

I wanted you to know how much I understand and feel for you.