But you do believe or you would fight the negative beliefs. They aren't solid. Laugh at the feeling that something bad is going to happen; it already has! Can't hurt you any further, your husband is gone and you're in a mess. You have to figure out how to take a figurative shower and do the laundry, how to clean up the mess around you so you are more comfortable again.

Agree with the fear/feeling that you are going to get old. You are! So what; you aren't old right this minute.