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Originally Posted by Belle1979
... I'm giving him the power to have control over if I feel safe, secure and happy by second guessing everything he says and does...
You are right it took me lots of sessions with my T and lots of soul searching to figure out that I am the only one who can have control over my emotions.
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There ya go! Add to that... while you obsess over what he is thinking and intending you loose sight of what you expect, need and want from him. You put yourself second to him. You are not equal in the relationship. You are second or otherwise last. Powerless by default. Powerless by choice. Powerless to him. No wonder you feel vulnerable hey?!
How do you change that status? He can't give you your power back. You have to walk in your power and know that from a place of power you can be disappointed but you can't be broken.