Violet, I have learned ( with myself) that the Body Memories are more trustworthy than my mental images. My problem is learning what the feelings are and why I am feeling them.
I started, about a year ago, having pain "down there" after several years of marriage...it then started some flashes and now I know what and why...it is better now that I have "seen" it.
I ahve several thousands of $$ worth of Dr and hospital bills, because I ahd no idea or knowledge of body memories...I can ussually tell, now, which are real in the present and which are from the past...but, as new ones come I have to look hard to see what it is.
I am sorry you are having trouble and I hope you find the answers you need as you are able to deal with them.