and now you share:


I surely understand wanting to see your mom. Can you do that, preplanned with her, without seeing him (or is he too controlling and won't let her out of his site?)

Ok, maybe your mom does need rescuing; maybe she isn't ready to be rescued. But by taking a stand against his abuse you might show, with your sibling, strength for yourself that she can draw strength for, you know what I mean? If she continues to see everyone giving in to him, then she is not going to be the one to break free. There are abused women resources, can you share them with her? Even giving her the resources will show that you know and won't deny what is going on any more. But still, she is an adult and needs to make her own decisions. You are not responsible for her (as I think you wisely shared and understand.)

This is about YOU and your health. This is probably not the last time to see your mom. Your T says you aren't ready to do this. Why not wait until you are ready, and can make it a good experience? Right now, from what I see, you're heading into some really negative areas that might set you back in therapy by a long time.

Make plans to see your mom next year or such ... and then use this time working hard on how to do that safely for you. Now that you've shared more, obviously stuff your T knows already, I stand more firmly with your T. IMNSHPaPO ... don't do this to yourself, it's not worth the chance.