BD,

I also understand how bad it feels to have someone not understand your illness... but in this case it seems beyond that, it seems like whatever her "issues" are, her way to cope with them is to tear you down and make you feel bad.

The things she has said are awful. How can she dare to refute your diagnosis? Is she a doctor? Does she know about all of the symptoms you share with your doctor that lead to that diagnosis? NO!

As for her claim that you won't have job options open to you, I'm not sure about this, but I think it is BS. There are antidiscrimination laws. You can be anything you want as long as you are qualified to perform the job. If you stay on your meds, etc, there is no reason to think that you couldn't do any of the jobs she has listed.

And what does telling your current boss one thing have to do with jobs you may or may not want in the future anyway? If your current boss doesn't deal well with the information, then you don't give his name out as a reference! If he does understand, he is likely to give you a good review based only on your job performance for anything you persue in the future.

It is a very personal question as to whether to tell one's boss or co-workers. Could be the best thing, could be the worst. You obviously thought your boss will take it well and so made the brave decision to tell him. I think that is awesome.

But you already know the "correct" answer to this, you said it yourself, it was your decision, you will live by the consequenses, SO WHAT BUSINESS IS IT TO HER, especially as it is already a done deal? Her only input should be to support you in your decision. Her reaction shows that her concern is not with you but with herself and her need to tear you down at every turn.

Finally, once again she has bought out the "my life is worse than yours" card. How does she know how much pain anyone else is feeling over any incident in life? This is a completely uncalledfor attitude IMO. And it has nothing to do with the situation under discussion, she only brings it up because she knows it hurts you.

What kind of relationship do you have with her? Do you share a good relationship and this sort of thing is only occassional? I ask because she really seems toxic and I'm wondering if there are ways to distance yourself from her, if that is an option, or if that is even an approriate suggestion... I may be outside of my boundries saying that, but my motivation is only out of concern for how badly this effects your health.