BNLsMOM, hon, I understand the slide, but really, why are you a failure because your ex lacks sense and manners? With a messy house, all your problems and your strong points, I would much rather know you than any light bit of fluff that gets caught in a *****monger's navel, however pretty or social she thinks she might be. You have brains, morals, love and a fantastic fantasy and all that she's got is no manners and everyone else's cheating dork. There's no contest, you win, mesy house and all. HUGGGGGGGGSSSSSSS, and try, try try not to let these people have so much power, even though it is so hard.