Thanks for pointing this out ((AAAAA)). I know you're aware of my difficult situation and I think most women in my shoes would have handled this situation more harshly for sure. I told him when this 1st happened that I would encourage things to be the same for him and the kids. The girls know they need to show respect for their father.

That's a clever signal you and hubby worked out. Usually the only time we have different opinions about the kids is when he loses his cool. I usually stay out of conflicts and let him handle it, but occasionally he goes over the reasonable limit. When he reaches that point, there's no reasoning with him at all. If I disagree but can overlook it(not say anything), I can usually discuss it privately but he's not very flexible unfortunately. I realize it's not good for parents to disagree over an issue in front of the kids but I didn't know any other way to get her out of being cornered