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Originally Posted by bitterdregs
I'm hoping nobody is offended by this but I don't understand the whole speaking in plural thing. if you make a post...if it's all of your alters talking and you use the word "we" and you are all in agreement...does'nt that mean you are integrated ? Aside from that, is'nt using the word "we' or "our" enabling ? I want to disable my alters, not acknowledge them. Except in art for some reason. To me they are the enemy.
You;'ll have to forgive me. i am new to this DID stuff. My alters are not the person who is speaking to you now. Someday they might be a part of me. They behave seperately from me. I will say "he" or "she", but not "we". Having this is hokey enough. the whole plural speaking business makes it seem even hokier. Do you feel it makes people take you less seriously ? People don't believe me now. If i started the "we" biz, I think my credibility would be knocked down a few pegs lower.
What has been your experience ?
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sometimes people choose to say we because they have accepted that their alters are connected to them aka the alter susie is within the host becky, becky has accepted that susie is a part of her,and contains an emotion or situation for becky because becky could not handle having that emotion or abuse happening to herself.
sometimes the saying we is idicative of whether the person has co consciousness abilities. Susie and becky can hear each others thoughts, becky can be semi aware while Susie is out dealing with an emotion or situation that becy cannot handle.
sometimes the saying of we is an unconscious act simular to what people do when they sleep walk. sometimes the person doing the sleep walking does not realize while they are sleeping they got up during the night and watched the Midnght Special on Television. saying we in this kind of context is just part of an unconscious act.
sometimes like you people can choose whether to say we. some people keep it singular with those that dont approve or know of the existance of the alters, and then with others that they are comfortable with they use the plural forms of vocabulary.
sometimes people use both. the host may be using the singular forms of vocabulary and the alters using the plural forms of vocabulary.
some people use the plural form of vocabulary because it is what their treatment plans include aka when a therapist is attempting to help the host develop communication and acceptance of their self and those within they will use the plural forms of vocabulary and in doing so the host automatically follows suit. ie during a session little susie and teen ager andrea came out so the therapist asks the host- what do you think all of you want to do about this? what do all of you think is best for all of you? and the host replies in the plural I dont know what we want to do about it.. We dont know what would be best.
overall why do people use the plural forms of vocabulary depends on how their systems are comprised, amount of co consciousness abilities and the comfort level and the type of treatment plans they and their therapists are using.
