(((( (((( Nikki)))) ))))

People rarely know the ins and outs of others relationships and there will always be judgement from people who claim the right to torment you because they are family members or so called friends.

You know the truth and you know that this guy has taken your situation, your mental health issues and used them as a catalyst for his bad behaviour. So yes you are totally correct he is blaming you and he has played the "poor me" card. She will learn that it is his MO. The Modus Operandi rarely changes and he will be watching her for signs that she is doing it to him. It is the natural order, even though it is a sad order he will be suspicious of her cheating on him the way he cheated on you.

Stand up for yourself in dignity and be better than him, you have your friend Pete who obviously sees the truth in the situation and sees the good in you that your ex didn't; Pete is the kind of friend you need and deserve. The really great thing about all of this is that you have a genuine opportunity to begin healing now without the poor treatment holding you back. And if you can honestly see that his treatment of you contributed to your illness and your anguish, you tuly have already started to heal, because nothing is always the fault of one partner; he can say it is until the cows come home, it doesn't make it right or true.

Thinking of you and sending you hugs and support,

Rhiannon