She does have problems if she believes that anyone other than herself is responsible for her own misery or happiness in life. She also appears to hold a double standard... she is aloud to tell you how you feel with regard to your bipolar, but no one can understand how she feels because she is the only one who ever had a migrane or is pregnant.

It makes me angry how she verbally abuses you, especially knowing that it effects your emotional and physical health.

Can you work on not engaging her when she starts complaining? Don't get caught up in the argument? Just say "Yea, whatever" and ignore her? I know that is difficult to do but maybe with some practice... Just think of us here and maybe engage in a dialog with us in your mind instead of arguing with her. Arguing isn't going to do anything other than you eventually paying the price in the end... she is never going to "get it" because she is "always right"... unless she can get some good help with her problems.

Good luck blackdragon... I feel for you.