I am now in a situation that I dont know what to do. I am so angry with my friend and I was her bridesmaid, and she was mine. We have known eachother for 16 years now. I dont know what to do, just let the friendship die out or talk to her before I quit.
We have always had issues because we are very different, but we have stayed in this friendship for 16 years anyway. When we first met we both were shy and she did not have many friends. I always was more focused on interior of person, while she was shallow. This was the main issue. And she was quite mean sometimes, always laughing at my problems but I thought this would pass as we grew up.It didn't.I did answer back and quarrel with her about this, but no use.
We stayed together even though I always had issues with her.
And then I experienced sadness in my life 2 years ago,a death in family and I got anxiety and stress disorder. At the same time she was getting married and asked me to be her bridesmaid. I said yes, and this turned out to be very bad for me. I did many things and was really there as a bridesmaid for her, but never did she ask me how I was coping with the death of a young family member that was at the same as preparation for her wedding. She just was saying she is so glad that she didn't experience anything like that, but no support did she offer. Never a word of kindness or anything. I was at her wedding and there she totally ignored because now her shallow self was the center of attention. After wedding dinner I excused myself and went home because I was feeling sick and exhausted totally. And day after the party she said to me that she didn't care that I did all I did for her as a bridesmaid(arrange parties, buy and cook etc.). She said that I went early from the wedding and that was such a selfish thing from me. After this statement I was so mad at her that I cut her out on facebook and hoped she would get the point. She didn't, she just ignored it and didn't contact me. I expected apologize from her. I added her again on facebook because I thought we should fix it since we knew eachother so long and were bridesmaids to one another. She got pregnant and I went to her with a gift when the baby was born. I had gained a couple of pounds due to stress in my life this last two years, and she stayed thin even after pregnancy. That is good but she managed to put me down by talking about how fat she was and she must loose pounds (insensitive and shallow again). Then a few months went by after this and I didnt hear anything from her. I called her to ask her about our friendship. And she was saying she thinks I am selfish (again because of I went early from her wedding) and she thinks our friendship is over. And if we have more contact again then it won't be every day. I said ok, but inside I was boiling. How dare she, the queen of selfish, call me selfcentered? How dare she dictate how often we should talk or not, isn't this un unfriendly thing to say? Also she was saying that her new "friends" are so much better than me. Those are people she has known for top 6 months because of the baby. And I see on facebook on how she has totally changed face in front of them, she is nice and overly positive. I really hope her true colors show after a while. She also brags to me a lot that she has many new friends now and that she has a baby and I don't. My other friends say that I should cut her out and that she is really bad for me. But she was my bridesmaid. Should I go silent on her forever or should I have the talk? A part of me wants to dish it out in a talk and then leave her, get it off my chest. But I have so much bottled up that I feel it will explode too much if I meet her and talk?
What do you think? Thankful for any advice