Anger is a mask for hurt. Is it anger that's the problem or what you do with the anger that's the problem?

IMO I think we respond to things based on what we were given as examples growing up. For example in my home anger was handled in a very physical sense (breaking things, hitting, yelling etc..). Being a parent I have been pushed to my limits of patience and while I have never hit my children I have an understanding of how people can hurt their children in a fit of rage (if they don't have a plan or an escape).

It has taken mindfulness and planned responses for when an occasion arises (in order to not give into the rage). I find that if I don't have a plan then my anger can take over - fortunately however I have stopped myself and locked myself in a room and given myself a time out for a few minutes - LOL!!

IMO when we are stressed and have no patience we go back to the core root of how to react to things (a movie that plays in our head from what we witnessed growing up). - kind of like being on auto pilot. Sometimes I hear my mothers words come out of my mouth.