RMoon I can tell you how to not deal positively with anger I am working on accepting my feelings, embracing them and processing them when it comes to anger,confilct.... It is really hard as the first twang of getting angry or a conflict with someone or upset I want to run and not deal (with my kids it's diff). I'm used to stuffing my feelings with food to get me passed the moment of anger - not something I would recommend as I'm obese (something I'm working on).

My T is helping me learn how to deal with these feelings, process them and be an 'adult' and address them in a constructive way. I hope for this to be an autopilot thing for me someday but it's hard to change what I have been doing for years.

I also journal to figure all this out.