Good points!!

My problem is that when I get angry I can't speak....just the opposite as you sabby. I want to but I can't. Same thing when my feelings are hurt. And as geez said....I go back to my childhood where I was told things like "oh never-mind, it will be OK" "lets just find something else to do" ....always avoidance. Don't confront or deal...avoid.

I let things build until they are so bad that when I finally speak I cry. I wish I could just "discuss". Sometimes to avoid the tears I will actually email. Darn..........