My boyfriend of 3 1/2 years is a super guy. We are very comfortable together. However, because of my history, I am now of the belief that unless he marries me, that I don't need to spend any more time in this relationship. We are in our mid-40's and probably look, seem and act as if we are a couple in our mid-30's. Nevertheless, this is how I feel. I do not think that he is lieing to me when he says he wants to be here and build a future with me... but I didn't think that any other man was lieing to me either. My past is over and I am not holding him hostage to it, but, I think that he needs to either poop or get off the pot!!!!! Flip side? Definately! He is a man of character... he is loyal... honest and I never have to even consider that I don't know what is going on. We are relaxed together.. laugh together.. share together and We have respect. Will I ever find this again if I move on? Im nearly 50.... I'm no spring chicken. What to do.. what to do?