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Bitter,
The others made some very good points. For us it was about acceptance. We had alters that when trigger was used in harmful ways then we had to bear the bunt of public ridicule because DID was not accepted by the local meantil health here. The hard part was that there were people that were willing to tell us that the TGC would take our son if we did not do what they wanted us to do.
We have had anger for not only us but for those that choice to use our DID coping skill againts us. So in truth to survive we did what we could to make amends to those that we have hurt and stay away from those that have hurt us.
But either way when looking back at all that has happen to us it was the case that each one was doing their best to protect the body and whole. Sometimes negativly but that was because that part had learned to act that way to keep the bad things from happening to the body.
The only way we found to heal was to let the others learn in baby steps that not all people enjoy hurting others. So just let them out and then go back and read the posts that the other do. You could be amased at how much you learn about yourself just by reading them.
We had been partially intergrated back in the 1990's but was hurt and was refragmented so in some ways we are ahead with the know how but still scattered from the abuse that we have endured. We had to relearn that we can work together and it is safe for us to do so.
Just know that even though we are so much alike we all have our own coping skills and each one that is within you needs to learn what real safe is. Not the pretend safe of running within to get away from the world and the people that can cause us so much pain.
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Sometimes the only way to find freedom is to fight for it, even unto death! Because no form of abuse transcends pass it! To live free and with hope is still the greatest gift of life!- anderson .gif "Boy Angel")
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