Interesting because this was what I learned not from my mother telling me anything, but just from my mothers situation & how she lived her life (I learned more from their examples of what I didn't want to do than what I did want to do). So I got my degree & my career & I did like you with my daughter in emphasizing that she needed to be capable of supporting herself. Interesting thing is that is exactly what SHE DIDN"T DO. She can't support herself & is always dependent on having to live with someone else to be able to make her expenses (& even then she can't). Ugh, sometimes no matter how hard we try to teach them, they will end up doing their own thing. The joys & heart aches of being a parent.