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Originally Posted by geez
RMoon I can tell you how to not deal positively with anger  I am working on accepting my feelings, embracing them and processing them when it comes to anger,confilct.... It is really hard as the first twang of getting angry or a conflict with someone or upset I want to run and not deal (with my kids it's diff). I'm used to stuffing my feelings with food to get me passed the moment of anger - not something I would recommend as I'm obese (something I'm working on).
My T is helping me learn how to deal with these feelings, process them and be an 'adult' and address them in a constructive way. I hope for this to be an autopilot thing for me someday but it's hard to change what I have been doing for years.
I also journal to figure all this out. |
(jfyi that was Morgana not me, I'm Rhiannon, but I think the question is fair, she must have known about a situation that was going to pop up later in that day for me lol)
I think all of those ways other than eating are dealing with it positively. I've dealt positively with anger now for many years and yes I probably do apologise for making people angry at times, but I think I do that because I know what it is like to be angry and it's not nice so I would rather others dealing with me not feel that way.
I can't be responsible for how they react to things, that is their problem, but I don't wish anger for them, that is the same as wishing any other harm on someone and that isn't acceptable to me.
I really wish you the best success with your therapist,
Rhiannon