Vicki,

You need to tell or call your T right away!! Call right now if you can. You said, "Even her H doesn't know, and our T is clueless." How would they if no one tells. I am giving you permission to tell! It'll be okay.

Then, I want you to print this post and put it in the mail to her right now. Don't tell me you can't...you HAVE to do this. Get an envelope and address it so it goes out tomorrow, Vicki.

You need to tell T right away.

Maybe some others here will have better advice for you. Until then please stay safe.

Petunia