I'm extremely worried about my boyfriend... recently, he has been feeling guilty, ashamed, and sick after sex, masturbation, or watching anything pornographic. He says he has always felt this way, as if her were doing something wrong, but recently he has been feeling much worse.

I have asked whether he has had any traumatizing or somehow damaging sexual experiences, and he's told me no. I've also asked if he could remember any time at all when he felt pressured into believing that sex was wrong or dirty, and once again he has told me no. Neither of his parents are religious, and neither is he.

As I have said, he has felt this way before. I can recall a particular time in our relationship where he had felt like this, but to a lesser extent. He had thought up two potential solutions: One, right after sex, he would go into the shower. He feels very safe in the shower. And two, right after we were done, he would have me hold him close and tell him that it was okay, that everything was okay. The latter seemed to help him, and for the few months afterwards we didn't have to worry very much about it. Although now, I don't think it will work again. He has already tried going into a shower afterwards, when he feels sick and ashamed, but to no avail.

As for our relationship, we are doing very well. We are the best we have ever been, as we were very rocky before this last March. we are both very happy and very comitted to eachother.

Please help us in any way you can, I would appreciate any and all advice and ideas given. If you have any more questions that I haven't answered in this post, please do ask them, and I will edit this post or (more likely, and if I can) reply to your post. We really want to enjoy ourselves and have a healthy sex life. Thank you so much for any answers!