i messed up when husband went out , i couldnt get hold of him and strted imagining the worst especially when i found out that exff car was gone as well i apoligised when o found out and said i shouldnt jump to conclussions but me and my big mouth didnt stop there i found a ripped up envelope in the bin addressed to this exff he told me he found it in his pocket it had been there since when he wanted closure a couple of weeks ago and he told me he found it last night and ripped it up i again apoligised now i think i ruined the chance of us working out our marriage and this has upset him big time hes gone for a walk but wont even commit to talking to me about this and trying to sort out the mess i made im afarid im loosing him all over again