For me it depends on the situation. If I'm not stuffing my feelings then I deal with them by first taking a breather before I say something I'm going to regret. I will also say things like "I'm feeling angry right now and I would like to talk about this later....etc" - i try but on a rare occasion I throw all caution to the wind and I yell

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Originally Posted by _sabby_ And then, what about the times I don't feel it welling up and it just blindsides me?

I wish I had an answer for you on that one. I too have feelings in general blindside me so I can relate. I try to journal and process things a bit in my head before I say or do anything. For me many times what looks like an issue on the surface really isn't the actual issue but it's a symptom of another issue that goes deeper than the surface. Hope that makes sense?