Sorry you are going through all theis crap with docs Thunderbear.
Sending you hugs, and

not being grossed out either!
That's the part about the neuro guy that really sucks. Hey, even thin and normal weight people have pain and spine problems.
WTH?
If they think your problem is your weight, have they done something for you about that...a physical therapist to teach you how to move / exercise while in pain, or a diet specialist?
I know it is so hard to be motivated to move when you already hurt. But, I have been helped by gentle stretching, taught by a physical therapist, then being more able to walk.
Right now my hands hurt...and I have been icing and taking pain meds. But I hate having to limit my activities due to pain.
Hope you are having a better day today and that you will be able to find some relief from your pain.