Mellors... Just something i'd like to add.. My parents didn't divorce... BUT, growing up, all my mother did was say awful things about my dad. I guess they had a pretty violent relationship. ANYWAY... I grew up not liking my dad. So I never really got to know him. In fact, I think I "hated" him and had no respect for him.. The odd things is, my dad was there always for me. It wasn't until my early 20's that I saw him as a person who did care.... And he really wasn't a bad person at all.....I was learning to love him as a dad.. But he died when I was 21 or 23.

It really doesn't pay to bad mouth "the kids" other parent.. The children need to know that both parents love them. Because the parents don't get along, does not mean they are not the "mother" and "dad" to their kids..It only messes up the children's lives when they know "too much" that isn't good about the other parent..... I missed out on having a father... even tho he lived in the same house as me...

When I divorced, i made sure that I would not do what my mother did to me.. I didn't follow the rules on "weekend" visitations... I told my son's father he could call our son anytime.. He could see him anytime.. And I never ever called it visitation.. A father does not "visit" his son. A father spends time with his son...

I do pray you can somehow find a solution to the situation so that you can spend more time with your son.... If the x-wife doesn't cooperate, maybe it is time to go to court.... Just isn't right for kids not to be "aloud" to spend time with their mother or father...