Thanks, Far. I appreciate you telling me how you see me. The money is of course important, really important, but the main thing my H objects to is my making the T more important than he is. He sees how much I like therapy, and how I don't want to miss any sessions. He sees how much I like my T and he feels left out. It's the pattern, and I don't blame him at all. I can't help it because that's the way it's always been for me. I'm trying to make him more important.

Thanks, sunrise. I know that my relationship with this T is different, though I think I had secure relationships with at least 2 of my other ts too. i just wasn't as open and honest with them. I hope you're right, though.

I tell my H because he has been so hurt by being left out when I've had these obsessions/attachments to my other Ts that I don't want to shut him out. It's very important that I don't develop a fantasy world with my T and leave my H behind.

MUE, I hope I will be able to do what you said. Thanks.
SAWE, you gave me something to think about, that my analogy to alcoholism is off, and that I'm using my dependency as a coping mechanism. I think you're right.

Perna, you make me think you know something that I don't know. So mysterious. Do you?

Deli, my H was going to come in for a few sessions but then this 'touching" stuff started and we didn't think it was the right time. Yes, if I had a more supportive H, and could get more needs met by him, I could probably quit therapy. That's a big part of the problem, but a lot is also from childhood.