feary it seems as if you have already decided and just keep continually affirming the negative with post after post.

Why would you be proud of being married to an evil abuser? what in that situation makes you so proud of who you were? Was it the home? the prestige? the power? please tell me exactly what it is that you miss about that evil abuser and the abuse he threw at you?

You know we are here for you and that we support you as very best we can. But you need to begin telling us more than what you've lost and what you've left behind, why is it "materialisms" that defined you?

No one is their marriage, no one is their house or car or furniture, most of all no wife is her husband, and I need to know if you are telling us that you don't exist because you are not his wife any longer?

((((hugs dear feary))))