[quote=rainbow8;1482993The money is of course important, really important, but the main thing my H objects to is my making the T more important than he is. He sees how much I like therapy, and how I don't want to miss any sessions. He sees how much I like my T and he feels left out. It's the pattern, and I don't blame him at all. I can't help it because that's the way it's always been for me. I'm trying to make him more important......

......Yes, if I had a more supportive H, and could get more needs met by him, I could probably quit therapy. That's a big part of the problem, but a lot is also from childhood. [/quote]

You know...I have some of the same issues. Since H and I don't talk much I need T. But I don't think your H could meet all your needs. We are complex, and our issues are deep. H's aren't trained to handle these issues...and I think it would be kind of unfair to ask them to. Just my opinion.

BTW: I think it's cool your attached to your T...I have never gotten that trustful of a T before.