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Sep 03, 2010, 09:25 AM
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Moderator Community Support Team
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Member Since: Feb 2005
Location: Southwest of Northeast
Posts: 33,346
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Originally Posted by Rhiannonsmoon
((((((((_sabby_))))))))
You are one of the most patient people I've come across so if someone makes you lash out they deserve it.
I close my eyes take deep deep breaths count to 5, hold it for 5 and then just let it release through the lips. That really takes me out of anger and places me in a place of relaxation and almost meditation. I know that I am not an angry person though at times I will push the envelope if I feel I am not being listened to or heard.
From experience I know that anger when used constructively does not actually lash out at all. When used to press a point instead of lashing out the actual anger is reduced to a point that brings a satsifaction in as much that the anger has been used, not let swing free indiscriminately.
Anger took me a number of years to master, but even now when I have pain, and I am crying I still have to ask myself "am I angry or is this sadness on steroids?" because at times when I hurt, I wonder, does it make me feel angry that someone felt they could simply do that to me?
I don't have the answers for you dear _sabby_ but I do have respect and care for you,
Rhiannon
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Thank you Rhiannon for your thoughts and care  I have worked on my anger issues for a long long time. This is the last of the difficulties and I'm finding this the most frustrating for me. My family and close friends don't deserve me to spew off at the mouth when that "moment" hits. I don't do it often, and I am able to hold back a lot better than I could years ago.
I really appreciate you!
sabby
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