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"assertive rather than aggressive" Nicely put ECHOES
Sabby quoted ECHOES...."I think you hit the nail on the head (((( Echoes )))). "It's a way of standing up for yourself, of 'fighting back', of retaliating or for protection to prevent further hurt." ....I agree, sabby.
There is so much in this thread I can relate to...it's making my head spin.
I think from reading this I can agree that what I am feeling most is fear, not so much anger. I get really angry with myself that I am still so affected by this current "trigger". It makes me feel week. I want to figure out how to defuse the trigger as Perna told me before but I often get caught by surprise so all the planning just goes out the window. For me right now it is a single situation but it all reverts back to the way I handle (or lack there of) difficult situations with people.
I dunno....this is going to take a lot of think and rethinking.....
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