...i realized everything in a persons life (including their DNA)affects them in some way and makes us who we become....i am learning that who i am is because of things that happened and my coping skills...i have to accept who i am and why i am who i am...instead of secretly hating myself and denying the things in my life that has happened, i have to love and take care of myself...if i can learn that im sure it would be much easier to learn to deal with all the rest ...but this site has taught me something i appreciate...i can be accepted by others...even when im telling my darkest secrets there is actually love and support for me in the world..i could be accepted while being real..i have never known that...ive always tried to please and pretend...THANK YOU ALL