I really considered each of these statements, and everyone will answer each of these differently. I just can't get past the "what ifs." For me, I have learned and firmly believe, the yesterdays have happened, are past; and I can only move forward from here. Whatever information I had to base decisions on at the time, is what was there, all there was to go by, and hindsight is a luxury to use for the future. What has happened to me is done. All I have is today, and I might not make it to tomorrow to consider the "what ifs" or to regret. If tomorrow comes, take each moment as it comes and make each new decision in the moment, hopefully basing decisions on the current moment AND what have learned from the past, making better decisions.

Many of the things that have been proposed, these "what ifs", I would have to look to this moment in time, accept that these things have made me who I am, positives and negatives, but that I can control what I do about them from here and this point forward. I may not like what has happened in the past and I cannot predict the future, but what I do NOW is entirely up to me; it is all we really have and being aware is the first step.

I don't believe this is the response you were looking for to these possibilities or for discussion; I am very sorry for this! I just have wasted a LOT of time, energy, worry, and anxiety in my life on "what ifs." I hate for this to happen to someone else.