Help. What do I do when I live with an emotional abuser. I'm trying to turn my life around. I'm making progress but my sister berates me at every turn. I've been out of work for about two years. She has let me stay at her place with my son(20). My self esteem has been broken and unusable since childhood because of an emotionally abusive family. My twin sister was our mother's favorite and it shows. She was always aloud to put me down but she was defended from my self defense without hesitation. Now I'm having to live with her because I have nowhere else to go. She's also an attention seeking hypochondriac. She's having endless testing done for cancer. Nothing comes up positive. She's had a boipsy, CAT scan (2ce), sonogram and blood work. She has a vit D, B12 deficiencies and high uric acid and her doctor told her (apparently) that it means she has cancer. She complains about money and is 'so scared' for her health. But she won't follow the doctors simple instuctions like no meat, more fruit and veg, lose weight, etc. My bed is literally in her dining room. She won't allow it in the carpeted living room. She says the living room is 'hers' and she doesn't want my bed messing it up. So I'm sorta in the kitchen. She's hurting for money because of needless doctor and hospital bills. I've eaten nothing but fruit and veg now for two weeks. I'm exercising but she wants me to do walking exercises not the floor exercises I've been doing. She's being a control freak. We're out of fruit and veg because she's been buying turkey and dressing with gravy and cranberry sauce and chilli with club crackers. Expensive foods and ones her doctor took her off of. She's willing to spend 1000's $ on medical testing but refuses to save money by eating right. I know she's lying to her doctor. Her doctor has threatened to drop her for being non-compliant. It's just that I'm doing what she's supposed to be doing and frankly, it's pissing her off. The more it becomes apparent she doesn't have cancer the meaner she gets. After her biopsy came back clear she had a short depression until they agreed to give her a CAT scan. That was clear too. Pretty soon I'm going to have nothing to eat but her fattening foods. I'm morbidly obese and looking for work in this economic environment. She's doing everything she can to undermine my self esteem and my weightloss. She literally screams at me that I'm agoraphobic, morbidly depressed and that I need to work on my self esteem! Yesterday she slammed her hand down on the counter banging on things screaming. I should be applauded for how I've turned my eating around and been increasing my exercises. The more weight I lose the more she screams and puts me down. It hurts. It hurts to know my family's contempt for me is unconditional. Love and nurturing will never happen for me from this family.

I just had a green smoothie. She just had frozen pizza. Yet she accuses me of not caring about her health. I always ask her if she wants to share in what I'm preparing. She always says no. She's a liar and manipulator and causes trouble for me with others too. I can't leave. I have no job and no money. At 44 I can't believe my twin can still make me cry.