Hi Clive,

I understand what you mean. I'm in my mid 30's and the only wedding i've attended is my brothers. If I was to get married myself I'd have nobody to invite!! Friends just don't seem to be a part of my life and even at school I only had one or two close friendships.

It's not something that particularly bothers me as i'm not the most sociable of people. I have however, like you, spent time thinking about it and often wishing that I was a more affable person, somebody that found making friends a pleasure and effortless.

I see my young children making friends in a matter of minutes, something I could never do as a child and because my lack of confidence and shyness comes across as aloofness or arrogance I doubt i ever will.

I think as a person you have to show genuine interest in others, if I really wanted to make friends I would find a place where people shared the same interests as me, go along for an afternoon or evening and see what comes of it. Do you have any interests that you think others share with you?

Hope you find a solution and TheByzantine has a point... where there's people there's the potential for friendship... now go find the people!

SD

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