thanks TheByzantine. sometimes i get caught up in the details. and forget to state the legal objective points. i become "that mother" frantically fighting for her child.

and yes, to reiterate to feafulfrog. your quote "The right of parents to direct the upbringing and education of their children shall not be infringed." though i don't know about New Hampshire state law. my case happened in Michigan. you have a lot in your corner being the biological parent.
fearfulfrog,
don't give up! i know at times i wanted to quit. it looked hopeless, especially when they kept on switching courts and after the other attorney came on board. i just kept on thinking: no matter what happened (win or loose) my daughter would know, as an adult, i never gave up. i fought to the bitter end. it didn't matter how i felt. it was for her. see, it just hit's me personally. so thats my humble "mother's voice"
but keep posting...