telling a new partner you si is going to be hard, at any time, dont judge them for it, give them time to adjust, if it is something THEY cant deal with, then that is not the person you need in your life, reason, they are judgeing you, not a good formula for any relationship, if you want to let someone know that you si, if you si on your arms or wrist, let your sleeve slide up on a date so that they see it, dont make a comment till they do, if it is in more personal spaces like legs, belly, thighs, ankles, and i know you are going to rip me to pieces for this, but remember i is a man, a man that has si'ed for the last 18 years, so i have had this in reverse, if he dont ask, dont tell.