((((((Elysium))))) you sure do have a lot on your plate, I wish I had some really amazing advice, I'll think on it - for now I'll just wish you good luck.

I totally empathise with (well, everything you said, but especially) your fear of flying. For months before I flew I dreamt of planes and crashing nearly every night. I don't you how often you have flown or how familiar you are with it, but I found this site to be helpful: http://www.flyingfear.net/
I posted about it here before and that was really helpful.

Good luck