Leora,
You wrote,[...looking for help...not sure...get me started...].
There is a vast collection of expanding knowlege available here from a diverse , pluristic population that has experiance collectivly that could have the potential to give you the needed answers to what you are seeking. My suggestion is to identify the catagory that you are seeking help for. Then, those that have knowlege and experiance could come forward to reply to your querry.
Lou