Did you hear my gigantic GASP at my desk on the east coast all the way out there in PacNW? I then quickly turned it into a cough so my office mate would not ask what is wrong!!

OMG.
I would be incurably furious. Endlessly and unreasonably angry.
I told my "when I was 17" story to my husband before we were married, and then last year my sister in law (she, sadly, has a similar story). Then I decided to tell my sister, but I likely started with "You may not tell anyone - not our parents, not our brother, not your husband, not your kids."
This scenario is something we talked about in a women's group I did last fall. Setting the boundaries for your reaction.
Ouch. Hope you are feeling a bit better. Glad that the Adderall seems to help! You are right, whatever works!