I'm in a similar situation, thank Goddess though that I'm not married and sex is a choice not a vow to be broken just because I don't do it. Whoever invented marriage ought to have been strung up by the balls! It's nothing more than a way of keeping track of who and where people are for census purposes.

I really think that it is a matter of love, and if he loves you he will support you through this time until you come to a time where you are more amenable to sharing your body with him. It will happen, women go through a second peak in their 40's and 50's so go slow with it and don't wear through it quickly lol.

I have vaginismus which precludes me from having sex at all because he just can't penetrate, so we make love in other ways. You can show your love without overt sex and you can still be intimate in a way that suits you both. That is what love is, caring in a sharing and loving way, not in a way that is attached to a wedding vow created by some religious male patriarch hundreds of years ago.

I'm sure phrick that your hubby loves you just the way you are and when you get a little better you will be more inclined to share yourself instead of cutting yourself off in yet another way from life, because of depression or other mental illness,

Rhiannon