Hello sluxmi,

Welcome to PC. I understand you are in a position where maybe it would in hindsight have been better to mention it to the family doctor instead.

Many men have erectile dysfunction and in most cases it is due to back injury. This is one of the reasons viagra was created. If the issue is an emotional or mental one then viagra won't have any effect at all either way.

I do wonder if the marriage can be redeemed if it has been over 2 years and he hasn't relented or forgiven you. Maybe he stays for appearances I don't know (and I'm just guessing here too), but it also saves face for him if he doesn't have to try and so be embarrassed if he fails.

But I wouldn't take family into personal confidences like that, obviously it got back to him and that is the most humilliating thing for him. I'm sorry you are in such a situtaion but it's difficult to offer anything constructive 2 years after the incident; maybe one of the guys might be able to help you?