I know... I didn't say any of that with the intention of having you feel like you needed to defend yourself. I KNOW those things weren't your fault, and I KNOW how easy it is to be generous with those you love. You have a pure heart, Tomi, and I know that if you had control over any of those things, that you would have definitely done it differently.

I was just trying to think about how your son and DIL felt, to see if there was any valid reason for them to be upset. Regardless of whose fault it was, I can see why they'd be upset. They wanted their daughter's party to go smoothly, and it didn't.

I don't know why Autumn reacted the way she did. I know that there is a lot of uncomfortable history in that part of your family, so it's probably not specifically the cake situation. She probably feels really torn between having to be on her mother's good side and yours. It's such a tough situation

But your DIL "forgave" you after you apologized. What's up with your son? Or is it because he was there in your motorhome when you got upset? He's been like this before, though, right?

Tomi