Tiger Lady was protective, but she did not "allow" weakness. Kind of like a Drill Seargent. She would not allow the little ones to get their needs met. They were afraid of her.
I became their protector ( I never knew they were there....no one showed themselves). We no longer needed her militant attitude. Now the little ones can play, cry, tremble in terror adn I can comfort them when need be....
NOW we are more at peace...